#AprilFoolsforLove: Wedding Photos!

This week, Grant and I have been married six months. It feels like the wedding was yesterday and years ago, all at once. This seemed like the perfect opportunity to share some wedding photos!

Our wedding was perfect, perfect, perfect. It was intimate and fun and just drunken enough. If you want to see 1,000,000,000 pictures, keep scrolling!

All photos by Elizabeth Thomas Photography, who I couldn’t recommend more!

WALLACE WEDDING//04.01.17

My handsome husband (he was still my boyfriend in this picture, though 💗)

The best sister and maid of honor a girl could ask for. The weirdest part of being married is honestly having a different last name than she does.

Becca’s dress is from Macy’s. Bridal suite at The Berg, our ceremony and reception venue.

Husband and wife🌟

Florals by Good Earth Floral Design

We stood on this beautiful, custom-engraved stone during our ceremony, a symbol of the foundation we built over nine (9!) years of dating.

Stone and engraving from Signs from Stone

Me, loudly laughing after “I now pronounce you husband and wife.”

Writing  captions for these is hard because all I can think is 😍😍😍

I told Liz that I wanted a few far-away shots with high drama, and she DELIVERED.

It was verrrrry windy and a little cold for after-ceremony pics.

Grant is holding down my veil here so it doesn’t literally fly away.

My gown and veil are from Fabulous Frocks. Angela is great, super fun, and professional. Grant’s suit is from Macy’s. We both had alterations done at Lucia’s Sarto, which I couldn’t recommend more highly. Perfect fits and relatively inexpensive.

This club is two doors down from our wedding venue, and several guests (including my aunt 😂) insisted that I get a few photos in front of it. When we left our reception later that night, a woman (maybe a dancer, maybe a patron) called after us: “Oh, you just got MARRIED! You go, girl. When I get married, my husband is going to love me so much.” Cherry on top of an already amazing day.

Hair and makeup by Ashley Backs of Hello Lovely. Everything lasted all day and night, and my hair even lasted until the next morning. My lips are a mix of two Lipsense shades (Sheer Berry and Flygirl), and I kissed Grant multiple times (obvi) with no transfer.

Rings by Shane Co. I wore a Kate Spade love knot bracelet (so did my sister) and a pearl bracelet Grant bought me for my 21st birthday. I also wore pearl drop earrings, borrowed from my mom.

Everyone we love in one room. A truly insane feeling.

Delicious and allergen-friendly buffet by Blue Pot Catering. (I heard it was delicious. My dress was too tight to eat more than a few bites. Whoops.)

Amazing vegan cakes from Mud Pie Bakery. Vanilla with vanilla frosting, strawberry with strawberry frosting, and — the best (and the only one I tried) — chocolate with chocolate frosting. (I just realized that I have no idea which flavor is waiting for us in the deep freezer for our anniversary 😂.)

Also, shoutout to Becca for arranging the florals on the cakes. It looks professional!

Vases by Oh Joy! for Target

Photo wall, with cardstock backs by the amazing maid of honor and photo contributions by both of our moms. The magnets are map-hanging magnets from Amazon, and they can seriously hold up anything.

The dance floor was this packed the entire evening, which was incredibly fun. Thanks so much to every single one of you for boogieing with us! (Also I love this picture because my dad is smiling/laughing (top-center) and G is having a damn blast (right)).

My dad played drums with the band for one song: “Bad Case of Loving You,” by Robert Palmer. There is a family-famous video of me singing this song as a toddler, so it was very, very special to me for my dad to arrange this performance.

My mom liked it, too, I think 😍.

End of the night, surrounded by the ride-or-dies, dancing to “Love on Top,” by Bey (linked the music video not because I think you don’t know the song,  but because the music video is amazing). G is back there, but my big head is blocking him.

Our amazing band, Twice on Sunday. If you’re on the fence about booking a band for your wedding, do it. It was so fun and made the reception feel even more special. One of our guests liked them so much she booked the band for her wedding next year.

TOS played from guests arriving to the final dance, and they learned several songs at our request. They are MORE THAN WORTH the investment. (Also I am left-handed, so holding the guitar this way made me cringe, haha.)

We paid our photographer a little extra to walk the few blocks with us to the hotel. This is one of my favorite photos of the whole day. Just me and my new husband, in the city we love, laughing about nothing. Deliriously happy and tired.

Pictured here in my rehearsal dinner dress, which I changed into after the reception. It’s from the dearly departed JCrew Bridal shop.

Cheers to our wedding and cheers to our marriage! I hope each and every one of you gets a chance to feel as special and loved as we did on our wedding day.

I feel so lucky to share my life with G, who loves me steadfastly, praises me daily, and is so easy on the eyes. I can’t wait to be married to him for the rest of my life.

If there are any other wedding vendor details you’d like to know, just leave a comment.

Currently//September 2017

I’m avoiding chores like crazy right now: my kitchen needs to be cleaned, I need to swap summer clothes with winter, and I’m totally out of clean exercise clothes. But I have SO many things I want to share with all of you. If you watch my Insta stories, you’ll have heard of a few of these. I’m hunkered down in the evening with popcorn, hot tea, and my cozy robe so let’s go…

INSPIRED BY//

Like always, Ms. Rachel Hollis is inspiring the heck outta me. She’s running a 90-day challenge that starts Monday because — guess what? — there are only 90 days left in 2017. If that made you gasp, you need this challenge.

Some of her classic tough love below ⬇ (click the Play button in the left corner between the video and the caption)

It’s so easy to disregard the end of the year. It’s Halloween, and then it’s Thanksgiving, and then it’s the holidays. We’re all crazy busy with work projects and vacations and shopping and pie-making. We don’t prioritize healthy eating or workouts, we drink too much, we let family drama drag us down, and we take all that stress out on our spouse.

It doesn’t have to be this way!!!!

Rachel is challenging all of us to ramp up at the end of the year, not wind down. Maintain your healthy habits (mind, body, relationship, career), and maybe add a few more. Sign up here for the email-based challenge. I promise, it will be worth your while. Leave a comment for me if you sign up! I’m an ambassador for Rachel’s brand, so I’d love to know if you’ll be playing along.

WATCHING//

G and I have been watching the new Ken Burns documentary “The Vietnam War.” I am typically not one for war documentaries, but this is fascinating. There are interviews with American vets and their families, Vietnamese citizens, and Viet Cong. The tagline for the doc is “there is no one truth in war,” and the multi-perspective approach really helps to hit that point home. 

My close friend Lindsey coordinated a Kansas City screening with Ken Burns and Lynn Novick, the documentary directors. They spoke on a panel with a local veteran and a local historian, and it was incredibly moving. After the hour-long series of documentary clips that we watched, there literally wasn’t a dry eye in the house, including all of the tough-guy-looking vets sitting around me. Watch this! It’s streaming on PBS through next month.

READING//

Loving “Alias Grace” by Margaret Atwood (author of “The Handmaid’s Tale”!), and I can’t wait to start “The Wonder” by Emma Donoghue. I better not wait too long to start it, actually, because I have to finish it for book club next week. Whoops.

Happy Friday! Countdown to 5 PM starts… now.

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If you want to know more about what I’m reading and loving (or not finishing), follow me on Good Reads. I review every book I read, so check it out!

LISTENING//

I have been listening to the new Kesha album on repeat. It’s the best. I have so much respect for her and her honesty. She’s clearly struggling with her identity, her spirituality, and her place in the music industry, and the vulnerability in her lyrics is powerful. Also, my newlywed brain loves “Finding You.”

I’m also listening to the “Waitress” soundtrack in preparation for seeing the musical in November. I have always loved that movie, and I love Sara Bareilles (who composed the music and wrote the lyrics), so I’m really looking forward to that date night!

Finally, if you love reality TV as much as I do, you must listen to this podcast: Reality Reality with Whitney A. Whitney, who is an awesome and funny wine and booze expert, and a guest discuss reality TV and reality (sex, dating, friend drama). It is so funny, and it’s a great outlet for all of my otherwise useless reality TV knowledge. (If you ever have any Kardashians or Housewives conspiracy theories to share, hit me up in those Insta DMs.)

EATING AND DRINKING//

I’ve been starting most days with a smoothie, and my new thing is adding frozen green peas for protein. I got this idea from the lovely Christina of Dessert for Two (please disregard that this post says “for kids” in the title 😂).

Rough recipe: 1 frozen banana, ¼ c frozen cherries, ¼ c frozen green peas, 2 scoops collagen peptides, 2 tbsp peanut butter, and 1 c water. Blend on high until super-smooth. Tastes like PB&J. 

The blend of protein and fat keeps me full from 7-11, when I usually have a snack (hummus, dried edamame, wasabi almonds, or hard-boiled eggs).

What are you obsessed with this month?

Dinner drop-off: Sweet potato, coconut, and red lentil daal

I’m in the season of life where everyone is having babies. The season where happy hours often include holding a friend’s baby in one hand and a cocktail in the other. The season where multiple friends at a time are down for the count with morning sickness.

While it feels a tiny bit bittersweet for the spontaneity of childless years to be leaving my friend circle, it mostly feels exciting. I love babies, and I love seeing the strong, awesome women I hold so dearly with their little ones.

Today, I want to share with you my favorite way to support the new mamas in my life: bring them a meal! This idea isn’t innovative or difficult or expensive, but it’s something I wish we all did more of. When a friend is in need, whether that’s because they’re struggling or celebrating, feed them!

Honestly, you don’t even have to enjoy cooking for this to work. Bringing your friend’s favorite takeout is probably just as welcome as a homemade meal. When you bring them food, any food at all, that means they don’t have to worry about the chore of making dinner, even if it’s just for the night.

When you bring a new mom dinner, sometimes you have to carry strange bags into the office. 

I’ll be sharing a series of these recipes that work well for the dinner drop-off in the coming months. These meals have to fit several criteria: 1. Cozy and simple, 2. Store and reheat well, 3. Walk the line between healthy and indulgent.

My best tips and tricks for meal delivery success:

  • All-disposable everything. When you’re bringing a friend a meal, it’s likely because the rest of their life feels overwhelming. Don’t give them the additional task of remembering to return your casserole dish. I am usually a stickler for glass storage and reusable containers, but this is an exception. I have a few Rubbermaids that I am not attached to, and I just tell the recipient to pass that container along as needed. If a gallon ziplock will do the job, use one.
  • Check in about food preferences. If you’re not sure if your friend has any allergies or aversions, just ask. Especially if you’re making food for a newly pregnant and possibly nauseated friend or a nursing mom. I usually send a text or email like this: “I want to bring you dinner Wednesday evening. Are there any specific foods you’re avoiding?”
  • Give a heads-up. Since the idea of this good deed is to take the weight off your friend’s shoulders, let her know a day or two ahead of time what you’re thinking. That way she doesn’t spend any time stressing about what’s for dinner that night — she knows she has a delivery from you on the way.

The meal I’m sharing today, a simple lentil daal with sweet potatoes and green peas, is a favorite at my house. It’s spiced and flavorful, but not spicy; it’s hearty, but not heavy. It freezes well in case your friend can’t use the meal right away. I brought it to a friend and her husband earlier this week with brown rice, garlic naan, and chewy blondies with chocolate, coconut, and pecans.

Sweet potato, coconut, and red lentil daal

Serves 2 hungry adults for 2 meals

I know that this dish isn’t authentic. But it’s wholesome, hearty, and has all the coziness of chicken noodle soup.

Ingredients:

Medium yellow onion, diced

Coconut or olive oil

Four cloves of garlic, minced

Tbsp fresh ginger, minced

 

Tbsp yellow curry powder

½ tbsp turmeric

1 tsp cinnamon

1 tsp cardamom

1 tsp salt (more to taste)

 

3 medium sweet potatoes, chopped into small cubes

1 c red lentils

1 can full-fat coconut milk

1 cup water (more to add if daal gets dry)

 

1 c frozen green peas

  1. Heat a large pan over medium-high heat (I use my cast iron skillet). Once hot, add a couple tablespoons of your chosen oil. I use a combination of coconut and olive. When the oil is melted/hot, add the onions. Sautee until golden brown, up to ten minutes.
  2. Add garlic and ginger. Sautee for 30 seconds, or until very fragrant. Lower heat to medium.
  3. Add spices, and — stirring constantly — toast for one minute. I add more coconut oil at this step if the pan looks dry.
  4. Add sweet potatoes, lentils, coconut milk, salt, and water. Stir to combine. Bring to a boil, and then simmer for 30-40 minutes. Stir occasionally, ensuring that the lentils don’t stick to the bottom of the pan. If the lentils or sweet potatoes need more liquid to cook, add about a cup of water halfway into the cooking time.
  5. Once the potatoes are fork-tender, stir in the green peas. Allow to simmer for five more minutes to warm the peas through.
  6. Serve with brown rice, naan, or both if you need extra comfort. Sriracha and cilantro are welcome compliments.

Heavily adapted from this recipe.

Note on rice: for the best reheating experience, spread still-hot, freshly cooked rice in a flat layer (like on a big baking sheet) until completely cool. Then store and refrigerate. The rice will reheat in individual grains, not as a big clump.

Get your ass to the front of the class! (And two more secrets to enjoying group fitness)

Until a few years ago, I had never, ever exercised with any intention. I played basketball and volleyball in middle school, but those practices were largely spent hiding from the ball, avoiding drills, and I rode the bench a lot during games.

In college, I would occasionally use the elliptical, and I took a pilates class to fulfill my physical fitness requirement.

That was it.

I do remember setting out to “go on a run” on campus at some point, maybe my junior year. I couldn’t even run for one straight minute.

It wasn’t until a few years later, when I was in grad school, that something snapped. I don’t remember what the catalyst was, but I do know that I downloaded the Couch 2 5K app on my iPhone 4, and I taught myself how to run 3.2 miles on sidewalks around my shitty apartment in midtown Kansas City. It was the first time that I had stuck to an exercise regimen, and I got so much stronger. I had calf muscles! I had cardiovascular endurance!

But, the truth is that I never really liked running. It’s just fine. It’s basically free, you can do it anywhere, and it doesn’t take long to get a solid, fat-burning workout in. It’s just so boring. So I didn’t stick to it. I’d go through phases of running 10-or-so miles each week and phases of barely getting my ass off the couch.

So, between 2014-2016, I exercised off and on. I ran on the treadmill, I went to occasional church rec room zumba classes (can’t beat a $3 class, even if you don’t attend the church), and I did some yoga and pilates.

It wasn’t until the start of 2017 that I really figured out how to stick to exercise. Turns out that I love group fitness. I love the accountability and the community, I love watching my classmates get stronger and slimmer over time, and the classes are FUN. Beyond getting a genuine runner’s high once or twice, I’m not sure I’d ever had fun before with routine, weekly exercise.

Each week, I take four classes: two zumba and two spin. Those four hours are some of my favorites of the week. I show up, give it my all, and then coast on the endorphins that you only get from dripping sweat.

Keep reading for my top three tips for liking, loving, and looking forward to a fitness class.

Note: I’m lucky enough to take zumba at my company’s gym for free, and I take spin at my very cheap suburban community gym (only $25/mo, all classes included). I found those spin classes through Google! If you’re interested in taking a class, and don’t know where to start, Google is your BFF. If your city has a gym that you’re already subsidizing through taxes, take advantage of it! I’m kicking myself for not using this resource earlier.


  1. When you show up to class, get in the front row!

    This tip is the most important of the three, and the next two depend on this one to really work.

    If you’re new to the class, it may be your impulse to hide in the back. Don’t do it! Getting in the front row means that you’ll have fewer distractions, you’ll be able to see the instructor better, and she’ll be able to see you! In a class like zumba, where you need to be able to see the instructor’s whole body, you’re doing yourself a huge favor by getting to class early and claiming one of those front row spots. You’ll be able to see exactly how the instructor moves her feet, which means you won’t have to guess.

    When the instructor can see you, she’ll be able to correct your form, which means your workout will only be better. There’s no sense in doing an hour-long workout incorrectly, especially since you could hurt yourself that way.

    Being in the front has always helped me to learn the moves more quickly. There’s no trying to see around the woman in front of you, or finding your view blocked during songs with lots of jumping (I’m pretty short). And learning the moves means that you can get that much more sweat out of the class. Once you learn all the moves to a zumba routine (the BEST feeling), you can power through the song at your maximum level, instead of pausing to watch the instructor.

    This is pre-workout. Post-class is not nearly as cute.
  2. Even once you’re in the front, please remember that no one is watching you. No one looking at your resistance level on your spin bike, and no one’s making a mental note when you miss an arm press rep. Everyone is focused on their personal workout. Especially in a studio with mirrors, they’re looking at themselves or at the instructor. Seriously.

No one cares that you’re sweating like a cold beer, no one cares that you’re tomato-faced, and no one cares that you’re not performing at the same level as the instructor.

If someone has time to stare at your workout, they’re not working hard enough. 

Deciding that you won’t take a class because you’ll feel embarrassed or because you’re unsure that you’ll be able to keep up is just an excuse. No one is perfect in these classes. People modify the moves all the time, instructors lose count of reps, and no one cares. We’re all there with the same goal, so perfection isn’t expected. 

When it comes to zumba, for example, I may know the moves, but I’m not executing them with any style or grace. And moves when the arms and legs move in opposite directions? Forget about it. I am literally incapable. But you know what I do instead? I just move my body in the best approximation of the choreography that I can. Because the only thing that really matters is that I keep moving. So what that my left hand is in the air when my right hand should be? No one cares!!!!!!

Making this realization was the biggest turning point for me. Once you get in the mindset that no one is watching, it’s so much easier to go all-in. If your instructor says to sing along, sing along! If a zumba routine ends with you slapping your own butt, slap your butt! What is the point in showing up if you’re not going to give it your all?

  1. I love classes because they’re a combination of solo exercise and camaraderie, but that camaraderie only comes it you make buddies. It’s the best to have someone to high five after getting through a particularly hard set of reps or someone to roll your eyes with when an annoying song comes on. Chat with other women in the locker room, commiserate about how sore you are from Monday’s class, and encourage them if they seem down. Knowing that I have friends in the class that will miss me if I skip makes it that much more important to get my booty to the gym.

Exercise classes have changed my life. Seems melodramatic, but it’s true. I am more fit, more confident, and more energetic. And I look forward to classes, even the one at 5:15 a.m. And, that, my friends, must be some kind of magic.

What classes do you love? What are your best workout tips? Are there roadblocks preventing you from taking a class?

My No-Fail System for Getting. Shit. Done.

Hi! Long time, no see! ✨

In all honesty, I haven’t been making time to write lately, and I have been feeling real crappy about it. This blog was totally off my radar, so much so that I’d be taken a little off-guard if a friend asked me when I’d have a new post up. If you’re one of those friends, thank you. Without your reminders, I seriously may not have gotten my butt back in gear.

Ok, on to the topic of the day: PLANNERS AND SCHEDULING, I.E. MY FAVORITE TOPIC

Last week, I was engaging in my favorite procrastination activity — watching Instagram stories. A creative, smart, and funny woman that I really enjoy following, Miranda Anderson, was talking about her lack of organization skills.

She said that, while she may be a good mom in a million other ways, she’ll never be a good school mom. She held up her son’s school calendar and said that she didn’t know what to do with it and that she would probably throw it away. I started giggling, in shock, I think. What does she mean, she doesn’t know what to do with it? She should add all of those dates to her calendar right now, and make sure her husband does the same. How can she not know that?

She then held up a nametag that her son had received in a back-to-school packet. He was supposed to wear it on the first day of school. She just knew it would get lost, and she didn’t know where to put it to prevent that from happening. Again, my reaction was just like WHAT?! What do you mean?! PUT IT IN A SAFE PLACE, WOMAN!

Now, we all have our strengths, and organization just isn’t one of hers. I tell this story with no judgement, at all. Miranda has infectious positivity and a great eye for design. BUT, her Insta story made me realize something that seems silly and obvious now: not everyone enjoys planning like I do and that may mean that they don’t even know how to do it.

I am bad at a million different things: I have terrible handwriting, my balance is a joke, and I can’t carry a tune (that never stops me from singing along, don’t worry).

But I am excellent at schedules and organizing and to-do lists and planning every hour of the day for maximum productivity. And you know I’ve never heard a tip that I don’t want to share with all of you!

If you’re like Miranda and can’t figure out which way is up when it comes to organizing your calendar or your family’s schedule, you’re in the right place.

My No-Fail System for Getting. Shit. Done.

Note: This is my tried-and-true system. I have tried many, many, many alternatives, and this combo is what works for me. Don’t feel like you have to follow this exactly. Take what works for you and leave the rest! There’s no right way to do this.

  1. Use a digital calendar and a paper planner in tandem

This may seem like overkill, but it is so worth it, I promise. Documenting schedules in two places is my secret.

I have a Google Calendar where I log and schedule everything. Upcoming events, planned workouts, upcoming blog topics, date night, must-see T.V. (hi, Bachelor Nation!), what I’m making for dinner, and more. If Grant is invited to an event, I literally invite him via email on the calendar event. He also has access to my calendar, so he can easily check if I’m free next Thursday.

All that said, I am still an analog planner at heart. I love, love, love my Simplified Planner. I have the Academic Daily in Gold Pineapple. The format is of this planner is awesome: an hour-by-hour schedule for the individual day is in one column, and a to-do list for that same day is in the other column.

During the day, I refer to my planner constantly. My to-do list lives there, so I’m x-ing items off, assessing how much time I have to complete the next task, and checking if I’ll have a minute or two to take an afternoon walk.

I typically check GCal in the morning and in the afternoon. First thing, I check in to make sure that I haven’t forgotten any upcoming events or tasks for the day. Towards the end of my work day, I check in again. I assess how much I got done from today’s to-do list, think about which tasks need to be “rescheduled” for tomorrow, and adjust tomorrow’s schedule as necessary.

And, yes, I literally block off chunks of time to write or clean or exercise. If it’s not on the calendar, it is all too easy to “run out of time” for these tasks. Saying that I will work out at some point on Saturday does not work for me. Scheduling a run at 10 a.m. Sunday morning means that, come hell or high water, I’ll be lacing up my sneakers that morning. I have a personal rule that, once I have scheduled one of these blocks of time, it can be rescheduled, but not deleted. That workout has to happen at some point, even if I’m nursing a sore knee.

  1. Download on Sundays

    On Sunday, I open my GCal and my paper planner at the same time. I transfer any relevant info from the GCal to the planner for the upcoming week: coffee with Maggie at 7:30 a.m. Tuesday, movies with Grant Thursday after work, early meeting at the office Wednesday morning, etc. Once I have these events in my paper planner, I can start distributing my to-do list throughout the week. If I know I have a freelance deadline Friday, I’m sure to block out several 90-minute chunks of time. I may not use all of the time that I schedule, but a surplus is better than a scramble to meet deadline. (And usually means that I have time for coffee and a book.)

Grant and I do a short pilates workout together every weekday (thank you, The Balanced Life YouTube channel!), so I write “pilates” on my to-do list Monday-Friday. I do this for two reasons: 1. It feels good to cross it off, and 2. It’s a great reminder that’s staring at me all day long if we oversleep and don’t get the workout done in the morning.

If you’re ever in doubt about whether or not you should write something down, WRITE IT DOWN. A superfluous reminder or to-do item is WAY better than forgetting something or someone or some paperwork.

  1. Make it messy

    This is the best tip I’ve got: make your planner a MESS. Do not care if it looks pretty or if anyone else can read your chicken scratch. Being hesitant to mark up your planner because you want to keep it neat is holding you back. It’s not uncommon for me to plan out a busy Saturday hour-by-hour, and then have to cross it all out and start over when plans change. I really do not care if it’s messy, but I know that some women tape scrap paper over their “mistakes” so they’ve got a clean slate to work with.

    Daily messy planner page

I usually keep another small notebook with me, where I can take further notes, or brainstorm various ways that I’ll get all my shit done. It’s a real mess, and it’s full of meal plans, tentative schedules, estimates for how long tasks will take, and more. I carry this notebook so I have more space to write, not so my planner stays cute.

Wrenches will get thrown, and you will have to cross a list out and start over. It doesn’t matter. No one is looking over your shoulder or checking your work. Your planner is only valuable if you use it!

  1. Set up a reminder system

Of all the tips, this one is the most personal, and it’s totally trial-and-error based. No matter how much planning you do, no matter how organized you are — you’re going to get distracted, and you’ll need to be reminded about something. For example, I need to bring my friend a book they want, and we’re meeting for drinks Thursday evening. I would never forget about our date, but sometimes I might forget that I promised them a book. Solution: I set several reminders. First, when they ask for the book, I add a red all-day event to the day I’ll see them next in my GCal (Thursday all-day event: GRETCHEN RUBIN BOOK FOR KARAH). On that prior Sunday, I’ll see the red reminder in GCal, add it to my paper planner, AND I set an alarm on my phone for Thursday morning at around the time I’ll be packing my lunch (Thursday 7:30 a.m. alarm: GRETCHEN RUBIN BOOK FOR KARAH).

Yes, this is a lot of steps. But they take, what, two minutes total? And that way Karah gets her book!

Second reminder tip: clip any paperwork you’ll need to the planner day that you’ll need it! If your dentist appointment is Monday, clip the check for the dentist to Monday in your paper planner. This tip is new to me, and I’m not great at implementing it. But when I remember to do it, IT WORKS! Maybe it’s my age, maybe it’s the fact that my bills have always been largely online, but whatever it is — paperwork is my downfall. (Sorry, dermatologist, I know I owe you that form.)


What do you think? That this is overkill? Maybe. What I know is that this level of planning allows me to relax and to get a large amount of stuff done. I work full-time, write freelance, exercise daily, see my friends every week, and make most of our meals from scratch. The only way I get this done is by planning every single day. On weekends, I’m way more flexible. I usually plan the first half of the day with exercise, chores, and errands, and then leave the rest of the day open to veg out and read. And, I know y’all with kids are laughing at me. It’ll be a whole new ballgame once I have kids with their own schedules. (But I can’t wait to get some sort of color-coding system going when I do!)

What I know now, and what works for me now, is that whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed, I get my pen and my planner, and I start figuring stuff out.

As my favorite internet celebrity, Ben Franklin, said: “For every minute spent in organizing, an hour is earned.” Do you think I should get that quote as a tattoo? I’m considering it.

How do you plan your life? Is it different now if you have kids? I know you’re just as busy as I am, so what tips do you have for me?